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How not to Write … A Hen Do invite

How not to write a hen do invite

The Royal baby has arrived, someone put a big sign up outside Buckingham Palace and some bloke did a shouty thing, but what’s next in the Royal’s event calendar?  No, not the Royal Wedding but Meghan’s hen do, which by royal decree needs to at least rival Harry’s stag in the legendary department. So if like Meghan’s bestie you’re having to invite a load of chicks to an epic bachelorette party, and haven’t a clue where to begin, cast your eyes down for a few tips….

Do

  • Be clear who the bride is (it’s her do, not yours), when, where and what you’re doing. 
  • Plan ahead. For destination do’s you’re going to want to give a few months notice, for local do’s 6-8 weeks, should allow enough time for the attendees to save the date in their diary and make any arrangements they need to. 
  • Pick a theme, if your bride wants one, and apply it to invites, emails and other communications, but don’t over do and keep it tasteful.
  • Feel free to use a pun or two, ‘final fling before the ring’, ‘A drink or two before the I dos’ ‘Party with bride, before the knot is tied’.  Poems are also popular but can be incredibly cheesy, so think about what sort of do your bride wants, and if cheese is ok, then feel free to go the full on gorgonzola. 
  • Be aware of your audience, yes you may all want to go to Magaluf for laughs and Lambrini but Nanna might be happier with a round of golf and a cream tea, so tailor your invite accordingly. 
  • State if there is a dress code, fancy dress etc, and whilst you want to encourage everyone to join in, accept that not everyone will be happy to dress as a sexy nurse or wear pink day glow ‘bride tribe’ t-shirts. 
  • Give locations, directions, maps and details of any and all venues involved.  For local hen do’s check that these can be reached by public transport, or ask guests to car share.  For destination do’s check for reliable and safe transport, including for those that may bail out early.

 

Don’t

  • Assume all hens are female.  The do is for your bride’s friends to celebrate her final days as a single gal, so the invite should include whoever she wants (including male best mate/Man of Honour) and your wording should be gender inclusive.
  • Base the entire invitation round drinking.  Some may not, some may be temporarily abstaining, some may be better off not, unless you want a load of home truths and an upset bride, best stay clear of day long bingeing sessions.  Build in activities and a get out clause for those that want to head off early.
  • Forget to invite your bride.  Often hen nights have an element of secrecy about them, but etiquette is that you also send the hen an invite.  No need to personalise it, the invite you send to everyone else should suffice, after all she’s also one of the group and wants everyone to enjoy themselves.
  • Make every establishment highly expensive, exclusive or swish.  Not everyone will be in the same financial position as the bride, so give some options so people can opt out/retire before it gets too pricey.
  • Forget to put your contact details on it and how and when you need people to RSVP by.  Many organisers set up a Whatsapp or Facebook group, but in the light of the recent Facebook data allegations, please check your settings, ensure its set to friends only and also include an old style phone number. Auntie Doris probably is on Facebook but play safe and give guests a traditional way of reaching you as well.
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How Not To Writte… Stag & Hen Do Invites

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We’ve already explained how to write the perfect wedding invitation, but for both halves of any prospective married couple there’s also the looming prospect of stag or hen dos to think about.

Whether you’re the handsome groom, the blushing bride or one partner in a non-binary relationship, it’s likely that your ‘so-called friends’ are going to want to take you out and get you royally shit-faced in the last weeks of singledom leading up to your marriage. Your ‘do’ may be a week-long alcoholic binge-fest in Marbs, or a sedate weekend at a health spa, but either way someone’s gonna need to organise the whole shebang and get some invitations out to the prospective stags/hens/drunken animals of your choice.

Usually, it’s gonna be your bezzie mate, or the lucky person you’ve chosen to be your best man/maid of honour, but we’ll leave it up to you who gets the dubious honour of being Chief Organiser.

So here’s our tips for getting the invite to your pre-wedding shindig in shape…

Do:

  • Decide early what your communication medium will be: are you going to do this all through old-school email, or are you going to set up a Facebook event where your stags/hens/weasels can click to show they’re attending and add comments, photos and their emojis of choice? If you’re feeling really 21st century, you could even set up a WhatsApp group – the world is your social media oyster.
  • Check with your hen/stag/weasel what they want and who they want there. Of course you can throw in a few surprises, but the aim is for them to have a good time, and waving a weasel in someone’s face may only appeal to a select few (Ed: Mainly other weasels, having a weasely good time). Remember broad appeal across age ranges, an evening or early hours opt-out is good for those that just aren’t able fiscally or physically to keep up the pace.
  • Draft your invite clearly and simply. The main things you’re going to want to include are: the dates when it’s happening, the location you’ve chosen, the accommodation you’ve booked and – crucially – how much it’s going to cost. Your group of assorted wild animals will want to know a budget and what they’re getting for their money, so make it clear.
  • Include instructions on how to pay you for any outlay you’ve made, and include bank or PayPal details to make it as easy as possible. Explain that you’re out of pocket, that each person owes you £X amount and that you need paying by a certain date. Set a deadline for payment or you’ll still be chasing Barry ‘Smudger’ Jenkins for his £250 come Christmas time.
  • Include an itinerary for the day/weekend/week that you’re all going to be away. Again, keep it simple, but include the main dates, the activities you’ll be doing and get anyone who’s not happy with the go-karting/Swedish massage option to let you know ASAP.

Don’t:

  • Get overly complicated and in-depth with the detail of your activities. Yes, there’s a lot of drinking, eating and blowing up inflatable willies/breasts to do, but you can sort out the details once you’re at the hotel. Your invite and itinerary are there to give people a flavour of what they’re signing up for – it’s not a military operation!
  • Insist on everyone on the hen/stag/weasel do having a wacky nickname. Post-Brexit, the British people have gone down enough in the estimation of the rest of Europe, so the last thing Prague or Madrid needs is Shagger and The Cock Monster shouting across their city squares and then falling into a fountain.
  • As per the previous point, don’t get t-shirts printed with your group’s wacky nicknames on the back and ‘Boys/Girls On Tour 2017’ emblazoned across the back. Enjoy yourself, have a blast but don’t make your group stand out like a sore thumb.
  • Forget to include the cost and your payment details. It really is VITAL if you’re not gonna end up paying for at least five of your party to have a free holiday. Friends may be friends, but people are very conveniently forgetful when it comes to coughing up the money they owe.